So, when my husband first asked me (via text of course cuz he's a chicken and didn't want to ask me in person) if he could play on/organize a city indoor soccer team this winter I was secretly annoyed. I was like...really?! cuz you don't have enough on your plate sucka??! But tonight, I am thankful I said yes. The house is quiet. The baby is asleep. My first born is running around a gym somewhere. My husband is pretending he is 16 again, I am fairly confident Uncle Rico is on the team they play tonight.
A lot has been happening in my mind and heart the last couple weeks but I just haven't had time or really been willing to blog about it all. Honestly, I have enjoyed so much the time I have had the last couple weeks with friends and family. The holiday weekend afforded us a couple days of purely family time. My husband even suggested we have a "no texting or facebook day" bahahaha! He changed his mind at precisely 7:34AM. We are what I would consider pretty connected people. We both have phones that alert us the moment someone has sent us an e-mail. Unfortunately, I haven't figured out how to make it NOT alert me when it is a viagra ad. We both know within 60 seconds if someone has tagged us on Facebook or tweeted something about us or posted a picture of us on their blog. We both enjoy being "in the know". I have a CNN app as well as a local news app. I just like to know what's going on around me, is that so wrong?! Probably not in and of itself; however, when it becomes more important than what's really important, it becomes a problem. A big problem in fact.
My 4 year old slapped me square in the face yesterday (not literally...don't worry I am not that abused) on Mommy Monday. He asked if I would color with him. I sat down at the table with him and began coloring. Not a minute had passed and "DING"my phone was notifying me of...a text, or a call or an email or a tweet or a tag or a poke or a.... My son looked at me square in the face and said "mommy, put your phone away we are coloring together!" Whew......
See, to him if I were to answer that "ding", regardless of what it was; I was saying to him that whatever it was was.more.important.than him! Yikes!! Oh how i need to be reminded. Even if it is from a 4 year old. What really matters? What is worthy of my time on Mommy Monday? Can the emails wait? yep! Can I text that person back in a few moments? You betcha! Is my Facebook status really more important than coloring with my son? Heck no! I pray that someday when my kids look back at their childhood, their parents high tech phones are not even in their memory. I pray the things they remember most are the times I spent coloring with them while my phone rang and rang and rang...
So, if you happen to call, text, tweet or Facebook me and I don't answer right away, be patient...I've got to finish this picture before I call you back.
I really needed this little smack in the face too:) It's so easy to let those notifications become so distracting and interfere with precious moments with our family and friends. And yes! Please, if you ever find out how to turn off the notifications for those stinking viagra ads, let me know!
ReplyDeleteYou are a good Mama!
ReplyDeleteI remember when B was 4 or 5 and her daddy went to watch her ballet class. When she came home she told me, "daddy barely watched me. he kept looking at his phone." I'm not sure if "smart phones" are making us that much smarter.
ReplyDelete