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Thursday, September 22, 2011

My Wednesday Oasis

I hope you don’t think less of me for this. Actually, it’s ok if you do.  Ready?  I don’t go to church on Wednesday nights. Yep! That’s right I sure don’t. And yes, I am STILL a pastors wife!  I mean, it isn’t like I am against going to church on Wed. nights, it’s not like I make a concerted effort NOT to go, I just never really have.  I actually haven’t gone regularly for several years.   When we first got married I used to go and help out with the youth group. Then, I joined a group of students and was a Bible study leader. Then, I quit.   I started working full time and went back to school and life was just busy. Just this last spring I started going off and on to a women's Bible study, but then I had our baby and the busyness was taken to a whole other level.
It seems to me that Wed. nights have many purposes, one of which is to allow people to be together with Christian friends and re-focus for the rest of the week. To sort of take a step back, a break if you will from the business of the week. To spend some time focusing on God so that we are prepared for the rest of the week, whatever that may bring.  It’s seems to me it is intended to be an oasis of sorts.  For me, my Wednesday oasis happens in a little bit of a different way.  I have chosen to take Wednesday nights as a quiet night at home. My husband goes to church (SHOCKING!) and most often takes my oldest son with him.  Sometimes I clean, sometimes I do laundry, sometimes I grocery shop, sometimes I blog and sometimes…I sit and hold my baby and catch up on my recorded t.v.  That’s it. Just sit and relax.  Wednesday nights have become an oasis for me..at home! It’s quiet (for the most part), it’s still, it’s peaceful, it's a time to recharge, it’s Joye time, and it is needed for me!

Starting next week I am going back to church every other Wednesday night to be a part of a group about “Mothers of Boys."   Let me tell you, I am so stinkin' excited about this class! If there is one thing I want to educate myself about it is how to be a mom of a boy!  While it is true that I am going to miss my “Oasis Wednesday nights” at home, I am so excited to join a group of women who are moms of boys.  I'll keep you posted on how it goes.  Hopefully these ladies have taught their sons the number to call in case of emergency...cuz we all know I haven't!


  1. Love this! Until i got my calling as an assistant for our girls activity days, I spent every wed night at home. It was two hours of peace and quiet. I get every other Wednesday now, which is better than nothing. I am with my kids 24/7 and, while I love them and enjoy my time and feel blessed to be able to homeschool them, I definitely need AND benefit from time for myself. I think this Wed. Night oasis thing is a well kept secret!! I just finally finished reading That's My Son by Rick Johnson. Most excellent! Love your blog and love you! I know I'm not a pastor's wife:) I so love reading about your days and laughing and tearing up with you. Keep on keeping on! I have some gals in ministry who read my blog. Would it be okay if I wrote a little post about your blog? Hugs!

  2. Thanks Jhona! Love you too! Of course you may pass along this blog to any one you want. You might want to warm them it isn't as good as yours though :) Love you sister!

  3. I actually just started going to church on Wednesday nights 2 weeks ago. Alex is old enough to be part of a class and not just the nursery so I thought we'd try. But, I am still dropping him off and Asher and I do errands or whatever. I don't really think it's a problem, but I have taken a ton of flack for it. "Why wont you sing in the choir?!" Because I just don't want to. ;)

  4. Andrea- I laughed at this- "because I just don't want to." I love it! So.true! I can honestly say I have never been asked to sing in the choir. There are some perks to having a terrible voice :)